‘There is Fear in the Air’ Series

She told me her secret:

“If I would have known what my future was, I believe I would have not wanted to see it. I have been torn apart in every way there is possible. I never would have had the courage to continue, but I did not know the future. And I am glad I did not.”

3 Strategies to Quietly Embrace the Future and What it Holds

Would we really act different if we had we known what would happen? I used to think I would make different decisions if I had just known. I can look back on my past decisions and the guilt, frustration and bad results of my decisions and I have much regret. But I did not know then what I do know now. So, I really do not think it would have helped to know what future decisions would bring me.

1. Making Right Decisions

The end result of decisions is not easily known ahead of time. But there are some strategies that will help in making good decisions.

1. There is no way to be absolutely sure how a decision will really work out. If my marriage with the love of my life did not work out into a successful relationship, how do I know what the result would have been if I made a different choice, or if I make another choice now?
2. How do you know – that the decision that turned bad – was not the best decision that could have been made given the resources available? There is an unseen element that we should all embrace to encourage us. There is a value that we usually do not see right away. That is why it is said “time heals”. But only if you let it heal.
3. ‘Tomorrow may be different.” Hold on to that thought. It will help you through the times through times of difficulty. Tomorrow always changes and that can be gracefully accepted, because to not accept it will not change that fact that tomorrow may bring hope. It may be good, you never know. Do not fear it will be worse.

2. Begin Again, and Again

1. Find a way for you to begin again. Do not let yourself believe that it does no good to try again. Find something good that gives hope and gives you energy to go on. Maybe it is a project, maybe start a business, maybe revive broken relationships, maybe rest.
2. Make peace with the past. People say to let it go, but that is a difficult thing to do. Sometimes that means just shove it down and do not ever think about it again. It is still there. Really let it go.
3. Forgive yourself. That is the only freedom you will have that will permanently stick. When you are free, the future is not so scary.

3. Spend Time Reflecting

1. Make sure you do not make decisions based on your emotions. Take time to think through the issues you are confronted with but also remember:
2. You will never make the perfect decision. Life is not like that.
3. Give yourself permission to make a decision, to fail and then get back up.
4. Research and learn all about the issue before making a decision.
5. Find someone to bounce ideas off, someone that will be objective and give honest input.

Take time and relax, get into something that will give you energy to do good. You will be known in your life for what you do, who you are, and what you give. Make it the best memorial that someone will have of you.

*Note: This is part of a series that was started September 3, 2019. I believe it was preparing me for the future.